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Welcome to Ways of the Weavers!

I'm Madison Weaver. A Jesus lover, wife to Steven, dog mom to Bentley, and soon-to-be mama to our first baby human! My passion is to help busy wives and moms create the home of their dreams without having to sacrifice time with their families and friends.

6 Ways to be a More Confident Wife - Plus FREE Scripture Wall Art!

6 Ways to be a More Confident Wife - Plus FREE Scripture Wall Art!

Are you struggling with confidence in your role as a wife? Do you feel inadequate or like you are a failure? I think we have all been there at some point in our lives. So today, I'm giving you six ways to be a more confident wife, plus FREE printable wall art!

 

I struggle with this more than I'd like to admit. Self-confidence is just not something I have an abundance of. I doubt myself ALOT, especially in my role as a wife.

I feel like I have to be this perfect woman who always keeps her house clean, has dinner on the table by 5:30pm every night, and never gets mad at her husband. If I don't live up to those high standards I set for myself, I feel like a failure. I know I can't live up to those high standards, so my confidence in myself dwindles day by day. It's a vicious cycle that needs to be broken.

I know I'm not alone here. I know other women have to feel the same things I do. You probably don't believe you can ever be like that confident wife you see all the time on Instagram, bragging about that "perfect" love she and her husband share, or her house that always seems to be spotless. If you are being honest, you probably don't feel like you can ever measure up to what God calls you to be as a wife because you just don't have the {fill in the blank; determination, willpower, strength, etc.}. But God has taught me a few things over the years that's given me encouragement in this area of my life. Sweet friend, you CAN be the wife God calls you to be and you CAN do all of those things, because YOU are God's child.

He tells us to be confident because we have Him. We have the beautiful blessing of being forgiven when we mess up, so we should never be afraid to be confident in ourselves. He can do wonderful things through us if we open up and let Him. Our strength doesn't come from ourselves, but from God, and because of that, we can do anything!
 

But how do you break that vicious cycle of constantly feeling inadequate and having no self-confidence? Here are 6 ways to become a more confident wife:

 

Stop the negative thoughts

The first and most important step to gaining self confidence is to silence the negative thoughts you have about yourself. If you are constantly saying negative things about yourself and your skills, how are you going to ever have the confidence to achieve the things you want to achieve? Start thinking and acting positively. Replace thoughts like, "I can't cook anything right" or "I will never be able to love my husband like that", with thoughts like "I'm still learning how to cook ______, but I am a pro at cooking ______!" or "I'm learning and trying to love my husband like that. I'm getting better everyday!" In order to have the self confidence you want, the first person who has to start believing in you is YOU.

 

Step out of your comfort zone

This is a big and difficult step to gaining self-confidence. Stepping out of your comfort zone means doing things you normally would be hesitant to do. Have people over for dinner or wear an outfit you don't think you can pull off. Surprise your husband with a sexy date night in your lingerie or volunteer for an important job at your church. Whatever you are hesitant to do or whatever decision you are afraid to make because you think you will embarrass yourself or mess it up, do it! That's the only way to get over your fear!

 

Ask God to help

God can change our hearts and our attitudes. He can help us become a more confident person. Pray and ask him to help you change your perspective of yourself. Ask Him to help you become confident with the decisions you make and the things you do on a daily basis. Tell Him your problems and ask Him to fix them. 

 

Constantly remind yourself of how God sees you

What we surround ourselves with WILL have an impact on us. If we surround ourselves with negative things, we will be negative people. If we surround ourselves with positive things, our minds will begin to shift perspectives. That is why it is so important to surround ourselves with God's Word. It will encourage and remind us to view ourselves the way God views us; beautiful and made new. A good way to constantly surround yourself with scripture is with scripture wall art. I love placing my favorite bible verses in frames and sticking them around my house. That way, I can always be reminded of these important truths.

*I've designed some beautiful scripture wall art that will remind you to be confident in the Lord and remember how He sees you! My FREE printable scripture wall art package is perfect for every room of your house. Scroll down to the bottom of this post to snag them!*

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Get organized

Make plans and set goals. Figure out what you want to change about yourself and set realistic goals. If you want to learn to be a better cook, make a goal to take a cooking class or practice more in your kitchen. If you want to be a better housekeeper, make a goal to start a cleaning schedule. If you want to become closer to your husband and strengthen your marriage, make a goal to spend more quality time with him or read a devotional that will help you step by step (like my e-book Becoming One!). These goals don't have to be huge. Whatever area you feel you are lacking in, make a conscious effort to do better. This will boost your self esteem because you will feel more accomplished when you finish and cross out those goals on your list.

 

Accept your mistakes and shortcomings

Mistakes are a part of life. We aren't perfect and we never will be. We just have to accept that we will fall short as a wife sometimes and that is okay. We were never meant to be perfect. We can only be the best versions of ourselves when we have God in our hearts, helping us day by day and giving us the strength we need to be who He calls us to be. Don't stress over your mistakes. Give them to God and try to do better next time.

 

 

In what ways do you struggle in your role as a wife?

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